Dance on the Devil. Flex on him, every day and as often as possible please.

When the scapegoat leaves the family or any toxic relationship, the other party will do everything they can to sucker the person back in. They will most certainly blame, guilt and shame the scapegoat for leaving, because all the problems have always been their fault and how dare they stop accepting it! If the scapegoat was the true villain, the family wouldn’t want them back. (Hello!) But no, the family/other party wants the scapegoat back because there is no one to blame for the dysfunction when they are gone. Once the scapegoat escapes the toxic environment and starts thriving, it’s a threat to the family/other party. It shows they were never the problem, speaking up about the problems, was the problem. Having boundaries, respect for oneself, and an eye to see the less obvious patterns of abuse/manipulation was the problem.

If you have been blamed every time you spoke up about your feelings, told you were too much, too sensitive, too this, or too that…If you received back-handed compliments, or didn’t have anyone who had your back…If you had people who purposely caused you to react just to make you look like the bad guy… Congratulations, you were chosen to escape that hell and find yourself, without the projection, abuse, and manipulation of others. You were CHOSEN to see the abuse, manipulation and projection and turn that mirror right on back to the person who needed to self reflect. YOU were CHOSEN to break the cycle. Your emotional intelligence was never the problem, their lack of self-awareness, or outright manipulation, was the problem and THEY know it, they just don’t want you to know it too.

Once you see that those people were only in your life to help sharpen your knife, you will thank them and move on. Use what they taught you to continue to cut out the cancerous individuals in your life who SHOW you they don’t care about you; those whose actions demonstrate a complete lack of emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and the ability to be accountable and repair. Some people will never have the capability to grow, and it’s not your job to water them until they do. It’s your job to find the soil and the environment that makes you thrive. Loving someone who doesn’t love you back isn’t a flex of loyalty, it’s self-abandonment. It’s self-sabotage. You were ALWAYS worthy of having someone love you, respect you, and truly see you for the soul you are. We are all deserving of having relationships ONLY with people who honor us as individuals living our OWN experience. Stop letting how others treat you define you. Start writing your own story.

Who are you? What are your talents? What do you need to feel successful, happy and loved? What do you need in a relationship? Who are you in relationship to others? All of that is for you to decide, and once you see yourself through God’s eyes and not the eyes of your toxic family, an abusive ex, jealous friends, the media, or what have you…you will know the truth. YOU are that special, perfectly imperfect, deserving of everything your heart desires. For that is the portal to the Kingdom of Heaven. Through the purification of the old you will rise, and find who you are truly meant to be.

A human BEAMING with love and light, justice and respect, for self, for others, for life as a whole. That is your birth right. That is abundance. That is living. Your work is to clear out the old and program in what you WANT to project out, not let others program you. Allow the currents to transform you, your intuition to guide you, and trust you will always land exactly where you are meant to. A true human BEAMING of God.

Always remember, spiritual warfare is real, energy transference is real, and hanging out with rotten fruit always spoils the bunch. Robbers don't steal from the poor and the devil doesn't go after an empty vessel. If you have been through hell and made it out with a pure heart, you are made of GOLD and the devil will do any and everything he can to keep you stuck. Every time he tries to pull you back to the self-doubt, over-thinking, self-judgement, unworthiness/unholy template-remember he wouldn't be attacking you if you weren't WORTH it. Even the devil sees your worth. So go on little cycle breaker, let the Devil shake in his boots every time you speak, God is dancing withIN you. You got this.